The sorting hat takes into account the member's own preference, too. It was about to put Harry Potter in Slytherin until he literally begged it not to.
When I lived in Germany for a couple years, I was surprised to learn that the large church in the center on my village was about 1,000 years old. This one building has been standing longer than America has been a country. Over 4x as long, too! European culture amazes me because there's such a lengthy history, and so many things are much older than I'd imagine. American history is so short in comparison, and we're more likely to tear down and build new and cheap than create a solid structure that will last for hundreds of years.
I finished the first phase of the space elevator, maxed out tier 3 and 4, then got distracted trying to get coal power up and running before moving on. I was getting tired of running back and forth, constantly feeding leaves and wood into a production line for solid biofuel so I'm not dependent on biomass generators anymore.
The last thing I did was set up a steel production factory using two iron nodes, a nearby pure coal node, a copper node, and a limestone node. I'm producing tons of steel pipes and beams, then feeding about 2/3rds of them into another production line to make stators and encased industrial beams, respectively. Once I've built up a respectable supply, I'll dedicate my time toward finishing phase 2 of the space elevator so I can unlock tier 5 and 6.
My wife is playing for the first time, and despite spending way more time than me building her factories, she's barely done with tier 3. I have over 600 hours in Satisfactory, so while I'm taking my time and enjoying the journey, my experience with the game means I'm progressing much faster than her. But she's really into the math of it, trying to squeeze every ounce of power and resource production out of her factories, so she's going to have a much better build than me by the end.
It's more about framing the conversation in a way that helps OP's supervisor realize they're at odds with each other, socially, and that the supervisor needs to make changes, not OP. I know it's a bit blunt and direct and may not exactly describe their relationship, but I've found that being direct and binary with extroverted people generally gets them to the point faster, rather than beating around the bush with complex descriptions of their dynamic.
And the supervisor being an extrovert is definitely a part of the problem in this case. They're ignoring signals from OP that they don't want to be social, shaming them for it, and forcing public interactions in order to change them. This is classic extrovert behavior which is making OP uncomfortable.
The topic of discussion is definitely off-limits and deserves a conversation with HR, but the supervisor still needs to understand that OP's antisocial behavior isn't a problem. Otherwise, the discussion will change to be more work-appropriate, but the behavior will remain.
As a fellow introvert, I've found that being meek and timid about uncomfortable situations just invites more trouble from extroverts. The best way to handle it is to be direct and firm. If she wants to be nosy, then drop all the gory details:
"I'm an introvert and I don't feel comfortable sharing my personal life with coworkers. I know you, as an extrovert, want to be involved in everyone's personal lives and there's nothing wrong with that, but as a leader and a manager, you need to understand how to change tracks and adapt to your subordinates' needs.
"I need time to myself to recharge; being around people is mentally and emotionally draining for me. It's not something I can "fix," it's just the way I am, and no amount of exposure to people or social events will ever change that. I need you to understand that and adapt to my needs, in order for you to effectively manage me."
I worked my way up the ranks in the US military and eventually found myself managing people. As an introvert, I found it extremely difficult to get out and talk to my subordinates. But I soon realized that the mission wouldn't get done unless I did my job, so I quickly learned how to fake an extroverted personality while at work so I could talk to people and ensure mission success. Then I'd go home and crash. I'd spend my evenings either sleeping or bundled up, watching TV or playing video games, just to recharge so I could do it all again the next day.
But one of the things I learned was how to adapt to the needs of my subordinates. I had one guy who was a complete fuck-up. Couldn't do anything right without someone holding his hand. So I either had to be very hands-on with him, or delegate that responsibility to one of my subordinate leaders.
But then I had another guy who grew up in a ghetto being plagued by corrupt cops, and he hated anyone in an authority position over him. Why he joined the military, I dunno. We were all about authority and respecting rank and file. But if I even spoke to him, he would shut down and then be unproductive all day. As long as I left him alone, he was my hardest and most productive worker. So I learned to leave him alone and he practically did my job for me. Maybe your supervisor needs to learn that lesson with you.
The common lingo originated from the movie The Matrix, where Neo was given the choice of taking the red pill and waking up in the real world, or taking the blue pill and staying in the fake fantasy that was his life.
4chan adopted the term and started calling themselves "redpilled," claiming that they were removed from the happy fantasy promoted in popular culture (wife, kids, decent job, etc.) and could see life for the harsh, cruel reality it truly was.
The mindset spread to Reddit where a community popped up (r/theRedPill), espousing sexual strategies for men in a society where they felt sex was highly unattainable for their gender. It turned into a very misogynistic subreddit, hating on women who "could get laid anytime" and didn't respect the plight of men who struggled for simple affection from the opposite gender.
Being "redpilled" took on a negative connotation, turning into a darker, conservative term to support men's struggles in life while at the same putting down women. Its original meaning has been corrupted into a warped idealism for men. One could argue it's promoting the opposite of its origin; fighting to create a fantasy world for men to flourish without effort instead of introducing them to the reality that their struggles are all self-inflicted and needed hard work, patience, and determination to overcome.
The term became well enough recognized that "_____-pilled" started introducing other concepts of being introduced to harsh truths in the world. In this case, blackpilled, meaning to give in to despair and depression in an uncaring, cruel world.
Metal Gear Solid 4 is the only MGS game I've had an itch to play for years now. But my PS3 broke years ago and that game has never been ported anywhere else. I was sad to learn that the first Master Collection didn't include it, so I'm hopeful this second collection makes it playable on Steam.
it's not super common
I'm 40 years old. This was pretty common to hear when I was a kid. But as the younger generations grow up, the language changes, along with the public mindset. Possessive phrases like this used to be considered romantic because it meant you were desired by someone. In today's culture, it's creepy because it sounds more like someone sees you as a thing to own.
It's actually been a long time since I heard someone use this particular phrase.
Yes, this is what I meant. The Red Cross said my blood type is rarely needed in my area so they don't care about me donating blood. But they're always needing plasma donations, and you can donate them more frequently than blood, so they recommend I do that instead.
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