The majority of porn with trans women is aggressively fetishized and dog-whistley to blatantly transphobic. I’m honestly not surprised that someone who consumes it is a transphobe.
It’s generally legal in the US, with some exceptions (judges holding court, maybe ship captains?), and as an American, it’s a little hard to wrap my head around the laws in Germany. I live here, so I just don’t say rude things to strangers, but what is an insult?
Some people are ugly or fat or bald or stupid, all of which I would consider insults. Can the truth be an insult? What if I did fuck that dude’s mom last night, would it be an insult to tell him? I’ve seen dutzen (use of the informal “you”) be considered an insult, and I just don’t understand how. I understand how it can offend someone, but the word I use for the people I love best in the world is objectively not an insult.
If insulting is subjective, can lizzo (or an equally body positive person) get away with calling someone fat?
Above all, how is saying “it is my sincere opinion that” before the insult a real defense?
I think with a forced gender binary, any advantages are double sided: men are respected, but not allowed to show emotion; women are cared for, but infantilized; men earn more money, but can’t ask for help; women are trusted with children, but not computers; men get to go on adventures, but can’t back down from a fight.
Like, with other forms of bigotry, there’s a much clearer “winner,” but sexism fucks everyone. I don’t think it fucks everyone equally, but it does negatively impact everyone.
I’m an AFAB egg and I heavily relate to a lot of that. I come off some sort of way to people (I’m also 178 cm, but only 62kg, so I’m tall but not big, maybe that’s related), such that people don’t interrupt me, take credit for my ideas, mansplain to me… I actually experience very little in terms of individual (vs institutional) sexism, and I don’t know how to phrase that without it seeming like victim blaming. People don’t even catcall me anymore, but I may have just aged out of it
I do feel awful for the kids who would have gotten to go to these schools, but won’t because of institutionalized racism. Just not for the people who pushed for this law
Jesus Christ, it’s not on you, but what an awful show. Nobody let that woman ask for evidence even though it was a good question that she tried to ask multiple times. I’m secondhand frustrated now
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