This is such a beautiful harness. If I had boobs I'd love to wear something like that ❤️
Here most BDSM clubs are not really about sex. Some parties are definitely sex positive but they tend to attract a different crowd than the core BDSM one. It's more swingers and young people trying stuff out.
But I find that even people who like to play in public tend to go to the bedroom with curtains closed when they want to have sex (which is pretty rare in the real BDSM clubs) so I think what you experienced was pretty typical.
However some of the swinger clubs also have BDSM events and/or a dungeon. If your area also has these that might be a better fit than a true BDSM place.
I'm sorry you feel that way about your age. I'm nearly 50 and it makes me feel invigorated. When I was 20 I was way too insecure and anxious which dropped off over time and enabled me to get into BDSM. Now I go out more often than ever :)
But yeah 24/7 is a heavy commitment. It wouldn't be my thing. I like to play around with different people also (not just in BDSM but also in bed). But I'm really lucky to be in a big city that has all these amenities.
For example yes, but other body parts too. But usually it's done on sensitive body parts yes.
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