How involved are you in your local scene?
Trying to get more discussion in here and I’m often curious whether people who take part in online kink discussions attend events and such
Trying to get more discussion in here and I’m often curious whether people who take part in online kink discussions attend events and such
I'm sorry you feel that way about your age. I'm nearly 50 and it makes me feel invigorated. When I was 20 I was way too insecure and anxious which dropped off over time and enabled me to get into BDSM. Now I go out more often than ever :)
But yeah 24/7 is a heavy commitment. It wouldn't be my thing. I like to play around with different people also (not just in BDSM but also in bed). But I'm really lucky to be in a big city that has all these amenities.
I've only had sexual experiences in major cities, so just going to meetings and listening to people talk (most of them either 20ish or 50ish, not many folks in their 30s) is a step down for me. Add to that my inability to perform as a top or in any heteronormative role, and that shrinks my dating pool significantly. I know for some people BDSM is just an activity, but as a differently-pleasured queer I find it very difficult to relate to normal women, and there is sometimes a disconnect with the poly/swinger crowd because of the expectation of sex (as they understand it). I would like to talk more about these things.