How involved are you in your local scene?
Trying to get more discussion in here and I’m often curious whether people who take part in online kink discussions attend events and such
Trying to get more discussion in here and I’m often curious whether people who take part in online kink discussions attend events and such
Here most BDSM clubs are not really about sex. Some parties are definitely sex positive but they tend to attract a different crowd than the core BDSM one. It's more swingers and young people trying stuff out.
But I find that even people who like to play in public tend to go to the bedroom with curtains closed when they want to have sex (which is pretty rare in the real BDSM clubs) so I think what you experienced was pretty typical.
However some of the swinger clubs also have BDSM events and/or a dungeon. If your area also has these that might be a better fit than a true BDSM place.
Yeah it wasn't just that, also the cliquishness, just felt very outsidery. There were defined groups of people so unless you came in attached to one of those existing groups, nobody talks to you. We weren't looking to literally fuck anyone, just expected something hotter I guess? My God I loved that DJ though.
Oh that part I can really recognise from the local scene. Many clubs are full of little cliques that don't talk much together.
It really put me off at the beginning but now I know everyone so it doesn't bother me. And at some clubs the management makes more of an effort to introduce new people.
But it's definitely a thing in some places yeah.