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@lemmy.blahaj.zoneQ: Isn’t it really insensitive to point out a trans girls’ penis?
A: Depends on the person. Every trans person has different dysphorias.
Q: What’s with the thing of calling people trans+gender in the first place?
A: When done right it's only done where needed for context.
Q: I’m sure many people have good intentions, but it really feels like accidental mean behavior to spotlight something that should be between partners, doctors, and close friends/family who can be trusted keep reminding someone they were born into a body that felt wrong.
A: Many trans people (including myself) like the kind of humor in the meme (it's a meme, and not to be taken seriously). There is a clear difference between pointing out someones "bulge" irl and in this meme. Additionally, referencing someones genitals again is triggering for some and not at all for others, it's not always a secret or whatever.
There's another community here on blåhaj this could have been posted to instead where it might have been a better fit, but the reference to a bulge is not the point of the meme and is supposed to be somewhat empowering. Tucking and other practices are common for transfems (and some eventually do surgery), but some don't. Some people view attitudes like this as a way to break down gender stereotypes and be non-conforming, thinking they should be allowed to be this or that gender regardless of what bits they have.
EDIT: Also I should add you can be trans without dysphoria.
I can't say I've seen behavior like Grails in any other trans space, but then I'm only in a few, and they're rather small and cozy. Most of the toxicity and drama I've seen on this instance hasn't revolved around gender identity and has rather been about us politics instead, but yes it has been rather tiresome. (I'm not saying this to invalidate your experience, I've just not experienced the same things or not experienced them the same way).
I wish you the very best as well!
Oi, Ranger, while in the spirit of the community is this not technically electioneering? You might want to expand on what you mean in the sidebar.
As part of slowly replacing gel with injections I took my first shot a few days ago! It took several attempts and a couple of needles to actually have the courage to do it, but I'm feeling rather proud of myself
Yes, but that's why I keep saying average user. Your average user mostly just browses the internet, casually plays games, and uses common software like word, with increasingly many apps/services being available online. Gamers who mess with drivers, the hardware, and bios settings and such are not really the norm. How many people in your life are afraid to touch the windows settings, if they even know where to find them?
Honestly most of the popularity of windows at home these days I'm willing to bet is because it's what's installed by default, and of course because of familiarity.
You're right of course that professionally you can't always replace windows, and while proton let's you play almost anything there are certain games that aren't available (usually because of anti-cheat). Most pc users however won't notice as they aren't gamers. I do also find that the settings and gui package managers on most distros are way more user-friendly than what you have on windows, which I think is another point in favour of using linux casually.
EDIT: Also most users don't have high-end machines, and linux pc's are nicer on the hardware and are less performance intensive which means their computers will be relevant for longer.
Oh yes, I forgot. I blocked them a while ago which is why I cant see them.
EDIT: I also find their presence here somewhat disappointing. They seem very focused on being polarizing and asking people to not vote biden rather than promoting any sort of alternative, in addition to being needlessly aggressive towards anyone who disagrees with them.
While I'm not personally a fan of hexbear or lemmygrad it sounds like you're doing a very good job with the moderation.