Tl;dr: I asked a girl out :)
I met a girl in a flight and thought we got along well, but she was only in a layover flight while I was in the last flight of my trip. Still, we kept in touch, and she's apparently coming to my city for a few days in two weeks.
So I did something I had never done before (even though I've been in a few relationships before) and asked her out! She said "maybe" (her trip was already planned and she is busy and staying with some friends, she seemed genuinely sorry) so in two weeks I may have a date :)
Hot damn good for you!
Keep us updated! I don't think lemmy has a remindme bot but I'm saving this comment.
Beep boop. I'm writing this comment because you asked to be updated on my date.
She canceled it :(. She was only here for a few days and ended up not being available to meet with me. It's ok, I think I read more into it than I should have!
Michael Scott once quoted some guy that said "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
You shot your shot. That's the important thing.
Good for you!
Well there's gotta be a reason she's keeping in touch after meeting you once on a flight. I don't still talk to someone I met on a plane, so you must've made an impression. I hope it pans out for you (and her).
It's a public holiday today in South Africa. (Good Friday)
So I came up with a cheeky dad joke
"What holiday is it? Workers day? Freedom day?"
"Good Friday"
"Every Friday is a good Friday"
I got two chuckles
That wild. I can't even do 4 reps of 45kg barbell overhead press. Then again I am quite a small person. I only weigh 57kg.
Yeah thats the flip side. I am a very heavy dude and it ain't all muscle that's for sure but I'm slowly working towards my goals.
Awesome, congrats!
Remember, form, form, FORM. Please make sure you research thoroughly and/or get a pro consult on proper form. Great tip I got once is to think of each movement as βpracticing the move,β getting really good at doing each exercise while maintaining perfect form.
Older you will thank younger you for every moment spent on alignment, balance, weight distribution, etc. and building a foundation that lasts you a lifetime!
I purchased a new (to me) car the other day. Despite my age, this is the first time Iβve done this all on my own and Iβm geeked over my credit score. βΊοΈ
I fixed my refrigerator. 2 months ago I was changing the filter, and I was too lazy to turn off the water first, so the pressure was too high and it didn't seat properly. When I turned it, I broke the filter receptacle. I called Samsung, and they said they'll fix it, but they can't tell me how much it will cost until they make the work order, and at that point I can't cancel it if it's too expensive. I asked if they could ballpark, like $100 or $1000. They said they couldn't. So I told them to go fuck themselves. I ordered the part on Amazon for $60. I had to disassemble a decent amount of the refrigerator to get to the part. But I did it! I swapped out the part and everything works perfectly. All in all, it took about 2 hours. There were multiple videos on the internet on how to do it.
Fuck Samsung.
I'm never buying a Samsung appliance again for other reasons but I'll add this to the list. Great work, hope they go bankrupt since they certainly won't quit being little shits.
I don't recommend LG either. Mine is on at least its third compressor and it's less than 8 years old. And I know two other people who have had the same experience... and I only know like five people.
Restarted my show / podcast yesterday, 1 year after losing my co-host (and best friend) to cancer. Moving forward, without forgetting him.
Some would see this as a big step. It's one of the hundreds of things that I've been doing to move forward...
Thank you for restarting, in spite of grief and bad times. So many good podcasts end abruptly with no explanation and you always wonder what happened. It must be hard to start again. Much respect
Thanks for your message! It wasn't much a mystery as he stopped joining me in the show when undergoing treatment and people knew. We got a lot of love from the fans.
This week has been rough for me. My nervous system is fucked up for various reasons.
Normally I drink one cup of coffee per day. But I had an Uber passenger whom I took to his job at a convenience store. He said βCan I offer you some coffee?β so I came in and grabbed a cup (my second for the day).
That was Monday evening.
I was then awake until wednesday night. I could not catch a fucking wink of sleep for that whole time.
What the fuck, brain??
Well, Tuesday and Wednesday I obviously didnβt drive, because Iβm not going to put my passengers in that situation, of having a sleep deprived Uber driver.
Finally Wednesday I realized how I could knock myself out. I cooked a big thing of pasta and ate a ton of it, and sure enough having a big meal knocked me out.
Fucked up, but Iβm proud that (a) I didnβt risk my passengersβ safety by giving in to the temptation to drive (I really need the money so it was tempting), and (b) found a way to fall asleep finally.
I know this story doesnβt make sense. I really wish the way my brain worked made sense. It would make life so much easier.
I struggle with insomnia due to bipolar. This sort of reaction seems familiar and atypical. If it happens again, maybe see someone. Good on you for staying safe.
I've got a 5(A) on my math(algebra+geometry) exam. Before that I've always had a 4(B). I'm very proud of myself :)
Funny thing I've been driving for 30+ years, and have never had a formal driving test:
Permit at 15: No tests, only restriction was to have a licensed passenger in-vehicle
License at 16: Had driver's ed in school, state's driving test waved, and license transferred to other states without any new driving test
Motorcycle license: Took a safety course while in the military, state added endorsement without any test, which also transferred out-of-state
Heavy vehicles: Trained on military 5-ton/deuce+0.5/Frontloaders/HMMWVs - all kinds of heavy equipment - no formal tests, only unit sign-off (even on civilian roads)
The kicker: I now live in a US state where a driver license is good with no re-testing till age 64
Gonna suck when I actually do have to take a test. Hopefully there will be sane infra to go completely driverless by the time I get that old.
I helped a stranger at Costco load up a giant grill into his truck. I have no idea how he would have managed it on his own.
Managed to get myself referred to a psychiatrist/psychotherapists for my complex issues after having previously done counselling/CBT with very little help in effectiveness of my emotional wellbeing due to having a complex past. Honestly canβt really believe itβs taken for me to get health insurance to be able to get help for it after having tried to get help via state healthcare but theyβre entirely useless and only offer counselling/cbt within short terms and discharge you if they canβt help you anymore ;-;
Itβs been such a slow process and itβs had a huge effect on my university education negatively, due to it but honestly Iβve havenβt felt more optimistic than ever tbh despite having days where it does get difficult.
What hardiness zone are you in, and have you ever had a paw paw fruit, by any chance? Because if it grows in your area, I highly recommend it. It's the most tropical-tasting native Midwest fruit I've ever had.
::: spoiler (disabled in a weird way from thoracic spinal damage) No matter how impossible it seems, every time I have something take me off my physical therapy routine of mostly riding a bike every day, I drag myself back out and force myself to hold a minimum fitness level at any cost.
I got sick and a week and a half of inactivity has me at 3 days on the bike in the last 6, and I'm back to 16 miles, 2 days ago. I'm about to leave for 26.
After over 10 years of spending almost all day, every day, in bed laying very reclined, riding a bike is my only real physical activity. This is a strange state to exist in long term. I atrophy extremely quickly, probably because I was in race shape when I was disabled. While I am no longer at that level, I never lost my legs, very low resting heart rate, or lung capacity.
It hurts so bad each time I struggle back to ~30 miles daily. I can't do anything else at the same time, and take Tylenol at max doses for little relief. I can't even manage to read much or cook right now. However, I think I'm already over the hump for this one. I slept 4.5 hours last night compared to ~3.5 the nights before.
Right now I'm procrastinating. It feels impossible, like there is no way I should be going out and riding a bike, but I'm going to put down this phone, kit up, and make myself coast down the hill; mentally picking one little target after another; lying to myself dozens of times about how far I must go before I can just turn around and go home. :::
a friend invited me to play a boardgame online, called Kingdomino. I really loved it, and since money is tight, I made my own copy of the tiles for in-person play.
They aren't perfect by any means and it took a fucking age to do them, but it's a playable version I can bust out with friends and family.
Made another appointment for physical therapy. The last time I was in so much pain for the next couple of days I couldn't function, but... I still can't really move around like a normal person now anyways, so I gotta give it another shot.
Thanks for asking.
Stick with it. PT can be amazing, but you have to commit to following their instructions. I spend years of my life at a 5/10 pain level with a herniated disk because I thought doctors would either just prescribe me drugs or see me as a drug seeker. PT care got me to being able to pick up my kids again.
That sounds familiar, had surgery on my back a few years ago which helped immensely but ever since then I've degraded. Walking for more than an hour puts me in pain for the rest of the day, which.... Thankfully I've made work with my life. But even things like cleaning the house requires days long rest.
I'm so happy for you and your kids, I'll keep that in mind when it gets painful. I truly appreciate your response. β₯
Iβve done physical therapy once. I thought you should work through the pain because itβs exercise. Big mistake. Communicate with your therapist to find out if the level of discomfort is expected or too much so they can help you adjust.
This! Some discomfort is to be expected but it shouldn't hurt. It should be a good "pain" like it feels good afterwards not a "I really regret all the things" pain.