They'd at least have to be leftist and not a filthy TERF but they wouldn't have to be ML exclusively. No sectarianism under these sheets.
I'm willing to date anyone who's willing to listen to my crazed ramblings, though I also wouldn't label myself an ML.
Are you referring to the one about wanting to get vored by anthropomorphic communist hyenas or a different one?
people aren't beating down my door and never have, plus even if they were i'm too ND and people aren't forward enough unless a third-party is around to say "they're into you, dumbass". so yeah i've never had the opportunity to say "no" and if there's ever a second chance to say "yes" i'll let you know how that goes.
There's not enough ML to try to exclusively date in that pool without being creepy. If they are kind and with a good heart, sure why not. A single person can't be everything to me.
That'd imply you're only really looking while you're in ML spaces which are uh, notably not for that. Professionalism and all. It's not a social club (although y'all should be friends and can rely on each other), it's a revolutionary space. That kind of seeking for others can create needless drama and interpersonal dynamics
But you could also just add it in your dating profile, and that way is not creepy 🤷🏽♂️
Yeah I think a more pertinent question is how early into dating are you open with your ML beliefs. Hiding your power level to woo a lib sounds like a recipe for disaster, but since most people aren’t all that conscious of their political beliefs, a “lib” who isn’t scared of dating a full commie is probably worth hanging on to.
My wife is a lib, and won't convert despite my best efforts. Her opinions are mostly good, but there are some real dogshit ones. I think it's a good reminder that people don't always agree, and you have to find a way to live with that
We are so happy, she's the best partner I've ever had. I shudder to think what my life would be like if I disqualified her for not being ml
It's not an easy thing to become radicalized and everyone has ther own amount of time they need if they're going to be eventually.
What matters more than being a strict theoretically correct Marxist Leninist, is that you're a person with good base values and empathy, the rest is a challenge of knowledge, effort and being able to break down your own world view.
There are lots of great humans out there that aren't and possibly won't be ML for whatever reason.
I finally thought I did and went on a few dates years ago, then the pandemic happened
What if she’s too hot that you have to lower her fever and turns out that her liking you was a side effect of the fever 🥵
Then you go find some infernal iron and a mechanic, and be prepared to move to Avernus.
When we met I was a lib and she was a moderate/conservative. Now I'm ML exploring other leftist schools of thought and she's a Christian socialist. We've been married for like 11 years now.
It's funny because most of our ideas overlap but we came to the same point from completely different journeys.
When I met my partner over 20 years ago we were both pretty much radlibs, for social justice and all that, but pretty well brainwashed by all the red scare.
In between here we broke up once and I met a Murican guy online who seemed nice, but turned out to be an actual hardcore southern rebublican. I truly found the implications of this out when we sat on a couch talking politics and I casually said: "But if we consider Marx..." At this point the man literally physically backed away from me looking absolutely horrified, it led to a whole thing where I had to explain to him that in my world this is a philosopher who is read in school. It was the wildest experience for me ever. We broke up later, for many reasons and many of them political.
Got back with my og partner and at the example of our kid I have ended up ML and he is pretty much there now as well. Honestly would never again share my life with someone whose basic values are so far from mine, it was pretty grim.
i don't date at all but i can't imagine wanting an intimate relationship with someone who doesn't agree with or at least approve of my most strongly held convictions and ethics and morality. that sounds like a supremely uncomfortable and likely toxic situation. i'm not so horny and desperate that i'll get myself into a permanent awkward social situation of eternal self-repression around the ones i trust most, and i'm suuuuuuper horny and desperate.
Yes, I ask left-leaning acquaintances out on a date and when we get to the date, it’s really just to distribute the party brochure and convince them to join the local communist party.
I do because Marxism is about accepting material reality and the material reality is that I’m not going to spend extra effort trying to find a mythical ML in the US.
I've reached a point where I feel more comfortable with the thought of dating and being in a relationship, but I feel that I've wasted a lot of time to reach this point. I wouldn't say that I'm desperate, but I would just really like to have a partner to share my life with and do cute stuff together with🥺
Also, I like baking so I need someone to help me eat it all because I can't eat a whole pie by myself😅
I get that you really want a partner. However, please be careful because desperation blinds one to red flags. Also, rushing love can make you end up with the wrong person and getting your heart broken or worse. So, what I am trying to say is to take your time to get to know someone well.
Yeah I think I could definitely end up ignoring a lot of red flags😅, but I do try to be somewhat cautious as I don't want to be taken advantage of and have my heart broken. Thank you for the concern❤️
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