I was busy with the family mostly with Thanksgiving being this week. Also on Sunday I was planning to meet someone from Grindr just for a casual hello, but I got very sick. And I'm still sick!
Tuesday was my birthday, and my sister and my girlfriend surprised me by taking me out for a fun night with a couple of my close friends! We met up for drinks and went to this Pho place for dinner, then we did an escape room, it was a really fun time! It was so cool to be able to hang out and have a good time with everyone and be open about things, everyone really liked my girlfriend and told me we were cute together!
Afterward, she took me back home just the two of us and treated me to some spa type pampering, complete with a full body massage that felt amazing and became more and more sexy until we couldn't take it anymore. She insisted on focusing on me the entire night, I normally try to give as good as I get (although she has more experience so that's sometimes hit or miss) but she wouldn't budge and I didn't try to fight too hard lol. And she was definitely thorough, by the time we collapsed to go to sleep I was basically a quivering puddle and was so hyper sensitive to touch I don't think I could've survived coming even one more time.
On Thanksgiving with my family I did tell my parents about being in a relationship with a woman. Overall it went better than I expected, my dad just gave me a hug and told me he didn't care who I loved as long as I was happy. My mom was more reserved, she doesn't really understand and I'm pretty sure she thinks it's like a phase or me trying to be trendy or whatever. She's always been more conservative about things, but she didn't freak out or shun me or anything, and she did ultimately tell me that she also just wants me to be happy.
My girlfriend was out of town visiting family for Thanksgiving so we weren't able to meet up for the weekend like normal. But it did give us the perfect chance to use the birthday present she got me, it's this vibrator toy that she can control from her end. We called over video and did a long distance thing, it was sexy but a bit awkward since I'm not really experienced with that stuff. It definitely made me realize I need to up my dirty talk game! Fortunately her's is really good and we got there in the end! No substitute for the real thing but overall it was really nice!
That's so sweet. How nervous were you when you were bringing it up at Thanksgiving? What did you feel?
I've tried the remote control vibe on someone in the past and the software was very glitchy. Which brand is yours?
Pretty nervous, mostly because I knew for them it was going to come out of left field. I knew they weren't about to like disown me or anything but it's still a big thing to come to them about. Having my sister there to support me was really nice. And our Thanksgiving is pretty low key, so it wasn't like standing up to make a dramatic announcement at a big family dinner, it was really just me, my parents and my sister so pretty calm.
Mine is a We Vibe, I haven't really looked at all the different options out there so I don't know how it rates against others but we didn't have any problems!
I actually went to a real-life sex shop for the first time in my life.
I was nervous out of my mind and I was doing this weird fidgeting thing where I rub the inside edge of my eyelids with my hands over my nose and mouth, and the woman who runs the place asked if I was having an allergic reaction to the air freshener. That's the humorous bit I think about to stop dwelling on how intense it was for me. It broke nearly every rule and norm I've ever lived by. I've had about ten distinct "I can't believe I'm doing this" moments just in the last month.
The owner of the store was very polite, and spoke plainly about sexuality and masturbation so far as it was relevant to my business there. It was as if none of it were ever taboo to begin with, and that kind of approach was just what I needed to not have a heart attack right there. I got a mid-size metal plug and a small thing of lube and I've been casually exploring with it since then.
In other news, I learned that I've made enough progress restoring my foreskin that artificial lube doesn't do much for me, and a lot of the time my glans looks like I'm uncut. Nature is healing
I went to a sex shop for the first time last week, too! I had to get lube before going over to fuck that top guy on Friday. It took me a minute but the ladies there were super knowledgeable and helpful. Also Uberlube is a lovely product.
We had our first date with another couple. We already knew that we were not going to end up in the sack, but a four-way flirt was exciting. It took a little bit of liquid courage, but all went well. The other couple were very engaging, the female half obviously was interested in my girlfriend, and we ended up staying five hours in a bar. Nice! We plan on visiting a swinger club with them next time.
Besides this, lots of sex at the moment, from cuddly loving one to bondage sessions. :)
Wow sounds like a very healthy and loving sex life. Any lessons learned so far to share?
I spent the week visiting family, so I didn't have much privacy. By Thursday, I was so horny, my horny brain decided to wear a buttplug to Thanksgiving dinner, which of course made me even hornier. I ended up fingering myself in the bathroom half way through dinner with my whole family in the next room over. Then again later in the night while everyone else was cleaning up and relaxing.
Definitely tricky to sneak in some fun when family is everywhere. Good for you. Were you able to participate in dinner conversation? Do you even know what they were talking about? 😅