So the same girl from last week who I made out with at a bar came over on Friday, we made cocktails, she was having some shoulder pain so I gave her a massage with some Tiger Balm, which seemed to help, and then I discovered that she gets extremely turned on by having her ears licked, as well as by nipple play, and also by me regularly reaffirming that we're not going to do anything before she's ready to, because consent is sexy. As such, we stayed partially clothed and there was no penetration, but there was plenty of making out, groping, and grinding.
I have a couple of days off this week, including Thursday, and both of our families live far away, so I asked if she'd like to get together on Thanksgiving so she could make like a turkey and get stuffed, and she said that sounded hot. Will report back with an update next week.
I love this! Getting down to business is great, nothing beats sex, but there's something really fun about making out and groping and having sexy fun without going all the way
Definitely! Since we haven't gone all the way yet, there's an element of suspense and anticipation, you know? Delayed gratification.
Fuck yes consent is very sexy. Also I'm dying at, "make like a turkey and get stuffed". You clearly found a great girl if she thinks that sounds hot :-p
Continuing my tradition of jacking off to pr0n during every. single. zoom. (except the rare ones where I need to turn on my camera)
I was mostly busy with a hectic return to work, and then Thursday night got super busy because my contractor was coming Friday morning to start renovating my apartment. Now I'm on Long Island living with my family for the next few weeks, so I think I will have very little naughty fun for a while :-(
Anal fun with my girlfriend! It's one of the things I have more experience with, but she's been more open to it since I've talked with her how much I love it. She used a strap on (not really a strap on, it's one of those insertable ones, not sure what they're called) on my ass and a little bullet vibe up front, and apparently she was impressed with how hard it made me come because she's getting into trying it now. Nothing too out there, just a cute little plug to start off with while I went down on her, but she said she liked the way it added to the experience!
Got a new sex toy, so that was fun to try out. Lovense Vulse for the curious.
I visited my boyfriend, we cuddled (among other things) and watched the movie Accepted
Other than that, it was mostly work and medical stuff.
Another quiet week for me! Work has been crazy and I was on call this weekend.
I ordered a new cupless bra because I accidentally ruined my other one by throwing it in the washing machine 😔 I don't like this one as much though. I'll have to look for the previous one again!
nothing major I'm sure, but I decided to try to frot with my BD toy rather than riding. It was kinda fun
I've found that if I keep a dildo in a harness and jerk it off. The feeling in my hand and the visuals of it are almost enough to feel like I'm jerking myself off. It's kind of mind bending.
We went to our favorite swinger club again last week end. It was quite full, there was plenty to see and we tried to give people a show. My gf loved being taken on the gynecological chair (again). We made a few new acquaintances, people were relaxed and sexy. And as usual, we'be been fucking like bunnies ever since. Quite excited to meet another couple in private in the coming days. Good times. :)
The gyno chair that's so kinky. Does she find that she gets a little flushed when she goes in for a real exam now, too? Like is that forming an association in her mind now?
I didn't think I'm a voyeur type, but I confess I'd really want to watch that.
I don't think she does. The chair is not so much of a gateway to a doctor fantasy than a way to just hit the perfect angle.
You're not the only one who enjoys watching us on this chair, quite a few people did. :)
I'm learning a lot more about kinks and the human sexual experience since SatansInteriorDsgnr recommended Oh Joy Sex Toy to me. I'm also more comfortable publicly talking about sex since my last post (thanks to everyone for your kind words!)
I also got this little band that helps out the foreskin restoration process. It does exactly what it's supposed to do - it goes around the shaft and holds the external skin in place while you use another device to stretch the skin from the other end - but it's also obviously a silicone ball strap. I'm not extremely well-read in sex toys but this product's "bonus feature" was clear enough to me. So that's certainly been exciting so far, and it elevates my edge-while-I-write strategy.
That's a new product and a lot nicer looking than the foreskin restorer I used in the past. Do you recommend it?
The Mantor is my first and only restoration device, I picked it since it had the best reviews on Reddit. I highly recommend it. It's essentially invisible through clothing. It's very comfortable and easy to forget about, especially with the new silicone pad that goes between the pusher and glans; the pad essentially removes the need for a moisturizer. I've only CBT'd myself with it once or twice and it's been because I used the thing incorrectly and opted to "soldier through" device pain. Make sure you know whether your frenulum is intact before choosing a pusher.
The only big issue I have with it is the interface between the threaded rod and the pusher. The receiving threads inside the pusher will inevitably rust away after a few months of normal cleaning, even if you think you've dried it well enough after each cleaning. However, once those threads disappear it allows you to hand-adjust the tension without removing the device, by twisting the cap at the end of the rod.
Nice I'll order one. Also reading the website and fuck I had no idea some guys were circumcised so tightly that they don't have a frenulum that's terrible.
I went to my local gay sauna on Sunday. I'd never seen so many people there.
Barely time for a shower, I was in the steam room, among 6 guys (or more?). In the dim red light, everyone was caressing and kissing whatever they could get their hands or mouths on, sometimes sitting on one of the benches, sometimes standing. At one point, I was sucking off 2 guys who were embracing each other when someone fingered me. Some time later, I was french kissing one guy while another (or maybe two others?) were busy with our cocks. That was the mood for the afternoon, even if it was in smaller groups afterwards.
I sucked one guy in the dry heat room, when a second presented me with his cock. I took care of him a bit too, before he came out of the overheated room. My partner of the moment whispered in my ear that he would have liked our playmate to end up in my mouth, and for me to give him his cum with a kiss. And guess who I found later in the showers? Here's a hint, someone got a nice blow job and someone got a nice kiss.
Before leaving, I tried my luck with one last guy, warmed him up in the sauna and we took a cabin so he could top me.
In the end, he was a liar and a bad fucker. All he wanted and all he was willing to do was get his dick sucked. He told me he was straight and didn't want to do anything to another boy. Of course, consent first and no kink shaming. But still, reciprocity is nice too. But the really lame thing was that it took him forever to get a proper hard-on before cumming in my mouth without warning.
It's not a problem to have trouble getting hard. I once took care of a fairly elderly guy who had such trouble and hadn't been able to cum since prostate cancer. I took the time, and he came. He was so grateful, that was cute. But in general in the sauna, the habit is not to insist and to find another way to please each other.
And I don't mind a guy ending up in my mouth (since I'm on preventive treatment for HIV). But holy shit, not without explicit consent and not without warning. So welcome to my freshly created blacklist.
Despite this, I have no regrets. This was a great afternoon. I went home on cloud nine, and didn't come back down for hours.
That was quite the successful outing. Too bad we don't have a good sauna in NYC anymore. Something like that shower scene might be a fantasy of mine 😅
If he's still "straight" I get why he might have trouble staying hard. It's not a physical thing but it's a mental thing. That much newness creates a lot of anxiety. I've been there. He should have been more up front about it and definitely should have let you know he was going to blow!