Welcome to today's thread, brought to you by warm heaters, cuddly pets, and green energy!
Welcome to today's thread, brought to you by warm heaters, cuddly pets, and green energy!
Good morning! We have the best cafe in the world here, you should give it a go
Edit: Although today my order left a little to be desired, that's an anomaly
I was in Hobart last week for the end of dark mofo and some work. Did you do the solstice nudie swim?
Not to be a spammer, I just wanted to say to this community thank you for the support! I'll have to think of something nice I can do for this place, as a proper thank you for putting up with my silliness and anxieties haha
i wish you all good fortune and good vibes - you are all amazing humans doing amazing human things!!
Your witty, sweet and personal poems bring so much joy and fun to the board, it seems we have the better deal. hugs 🤗
The vunerability shown here is completely raw at times and I really love it. Vent away my friend.
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I haven't replied to you much, mainly because I usually don't feel like I can help much, and replying with "sorry to hear that" or "good luck" or whatever is a waste of a reply, but I always see your comments and I always give you an upvote
Congrats. That is so cool. (snoopy happy dance https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tTF4gN6XhF0&ab_channel=GingerAnderson )
Sending you so many positive vibes, virtual high fives and a good luck tickle under your chin.
Good luck my friend! I totally get you, having a job while tiring has already made me so bloody happy. It just takes that one person to finally say "yes, I want you to work for me" to get that foot in the door.
Coming soon to instagram cafes near you. Microwaved potato, cheese, salt and pepper, hot sauce, and fried eggs with runny yolk
Replace the word "cheese" with "fried in butter" and you've got my version. e: I didn't realise this was becoming a porn forum.
I wrote a huge thing about period pain and PCOS but having second thoughts because I'm not too sure if it's appropriate? I did spoiler it and warn for those who don't want to see it. But yeah. I've got no where else to talk about it and it's just like a lot of ??? and ughhhh pain.
If it's cool then I'll reply to this, if not well, I won't... I guess?
Endo here, periods seem like a design flaw we should've fixed by now. They massively suck. So much pain. Hugs.
I have major body dismorphia due to not having female reproductive organs, but I can deal or scroll past. You should be able to talk about what you are going through.
If it helps you feel better, chuck it out and defs use the spoiler tag so people can avoid if they need! But if you need to vent, goooo!!
I think it's cool. I don't experience them (wrong type of plumbing) but see my and wife and daughter go through this regularly and never know what help to offer.
Everyone is being super nice so I shall post it. Spoiler omg for obvious reasons. So if that periods and PCOS is gross or triggering, you've been warned.
::: spoiler gross stuff here! So I've been diagnosed with PCOS since I was 12 but only officially when I was 21 due to the procedure being pretty invasive for a 12 y/o. I didn't have a lot of periods growing up and only had one pretty regularly when I got on the pill at 18 and I got off it at 23 due to my past GP's concern with blood clots. Thus since then I've had the rod.
Anyways, since being on the rod my periods were non-existent except for that I would bleed old blood. That's been pretty consistent, I would never get a period in the typical sense. It'd be maybe once every 2 months or so and it's just old blood.
Now it's a mixture of old blood and new blood and I am in so much pain (well like on a scale it's like a 4 to 5. Hurts but I try to focus on work). And I'm just like ??? so many question marks. Like wtf body, I thought we had a deal, you didn't give me periods and I would be okay with that.
There's not much to this really. I just like I'm so confused and in pain and I want to die. Ugh... Ugh. Sorry that this is very TMI, as I said, I don't know who else to talk to about this. It's not triggering the gender dysphoria, but it's still not great. Thank you to whoever listens. :::
Fuck, you're strong to work through that! Have seen a health pro?
I'm just so glad its not pushing your dysphoria as well. I'm trans femme so I understand dysphoria and know it comes out of nowhere sometimes and can last for hours. For what it's worth I obviously read your post without being triggered and this is pretty good for me honestly.
I'm going to need to see a GP to get the rod replaced soon anyway. But yeah, like it's just, ugh. I never had any sort of dysphoria around my period because I don't get it often. Compared to a trans man/masc person who might get dysphoria due to having it often. But when I would get it it's never been the downfall of society as I know it.
Also I'm super happy you felt comfortable enough to read it <3 I tried to not make it so... weird but yeah. I understands periods are a thing some people just don't want to hear. That's valid.
Most of my close people are cis women and now I have a noticable cycle I seem to be coming to terms with being able to talk about it all a bit more. My worst dysphoria was post egg crack, pre-hrt and in the early stages when i had no t and not enough e. That time has passed. To be really female and connect as deeply as I want to with afab women I have to be open the knowledge and not be too selfish and or squeamish to back away from certain topics.
Edit, enough about me, I hope you feel better soon.
Periods suck ass. I dont have pcos, but my periods are irregular, usually last a full 7 days, and are painful. I'm sorry you're having to deal with it ugh.
Most mammals reabsorb it, so as to not leave blood everywhere for predators to follow. Some animals only ovulate during intercourse, and not before. I think a few other apes (and baboons iirc??) have periods and that's it?
So annoying. I've been meaning to get onto a GP to start the process for a hysterectomy, now that I'm over 30 I'll have an easier time convincing them I'm childfree and not maternal in the slightest.
A nice hot water bottle/wheat bag applied to the region helps somewhat, or a hot shower. I'm sorry, friend.
Not too sure what went wrong in the drawing board when it came to human periods... haha.
Yeah I think I might do what I need to do around the house and then heat up the wheat bag and continue reading the comic I was reading at work (look, it was super slow and I wasn't getting emails).
Sounds like a fantastic way to take your mind off it. The Crimson Tide can ebb the fuck away, tyvm haha 😅
Shit, afab people's health has been pushed to the back for far too fucking long hasn't it? For christ's sake people know what they want for their bodies.
Tangent time! The last time I went to the doctor for something physical (I have been for mental health plenty), the doctor was very persistent I take my clothes off so he can check the rest of my body.
Now, I went for help with treating psoriasis behind my ears, and I obviously have checked myself and know it's nowhere else; it hasn't spread. But he just wouldn't take my 'no, I dont have this issue elsewhere, just on my head' as a definive answer.
Suffice to say, after that particular incident, I don't talk to male GPs about my physical health anymore. Which has led to me neglecting certain physical ailments as trying to find an available female doctor, that I'm comfortable with, is like searching for the fucking holy grail, apparently.
Ugh sorry, just my own Lil' Rant™️ about GPs. Bleh!
That's pretty creepy. I'm sorry you've had to put your health on the back burner. I'm pretty sure the centre clinic in st kilda has a female gp and they're a specialist queer clinic.
My GP there is male, but I've always felt completely safe and understood by him. He only works wednesdays though. I think he's the only one there who has the training and capacity to understand hormone treatment but I could be wrong.
was in the office at 7 this morning, on the way home now and posting here because I just caught myself dozing on the train. must. stay. awake.
Your chattier than me, I'm at 24/345. I should find some more photos to post in the pictures community and bump my post count up a couple.
RIP our espresso machine; 16 years of great service, but the water tank thingy is manky as fuck and it can't be cleaned beyond what we've already tried. It's like the lining has melted, and that can't be good for consuming, but the replacement tanks have been discontinued. New machine arrives tomorrow and it's got a built-in grinder, so we need give away the old grinder which works perfectly. Sunbeam Cafe Series, if anyone's interested.
Noo, RIP! Always sucks to lose Ol Faithful.
Whatcha get as a replacement? Partner's got a vendetta against the pod coffee machine my parents got me way back, so I think I'll need to get a proper one soon.
Heck yes Aussie Zone is now accessible on work PC! I think we must be blocking new domains or something.
We’ve just had the baby sleep consultant come by. I didn’t have high hopes, in my mind it was just a starting point as it’s the free council service and the advice we got from our maternal child health nurse did not work for us at all.
But I have been pleasantly surprised! She was really nice and the approach she has suggested sounds a lot more suitable for us. It’s going to be a hard 3+ week journey to change baby’s sleep habits. Really hoping at the end of it we will see some better sleep!! I am so tired!!
Getting close to needing something like this ourselves. He ONLY wants to sleep on mum, and whilst he usually stays down once he finally goes down at 11-12ish its a long time to get him there. What were some things they suggested out of curiosity?
Mine was just like that too! He got a tiny bit more independent as he got older but nowhere near enough. How old is yours now? If it’s not much better by 4-5 months I’d definitely recommend it. It will be a bit harder for us as he’s older and the sleep habits are more set in stone. So the earlier the better!
We are transitioning to cot in his own room so it was suggested we basically work in 15 min increments. Put him down when he first starts showing tired signs (before he’s melting down and grumpy) and give him a chance to fall asleep on his own. If he fusses can try adding one thing at a time, like shushing or song, then patting the mattress, then patting him etc. If that doesn’t work, all good, just go back to what works and try again at the next sleep.
Also having a rock solid routine before sleep and keeping the sleep conditions exactly the same: so always have white noise, always do bed time routine in the same order etc. And consistency. So even if it doesn’t seem like it’s working, sticking with it for every single sleep. “Success” at the beginning may just be laying there without crying for a few mins.
Ours is only 2.5 months. I was told not to even bother trying a routine till 4 months ish.
@TinyBreak @stardustingss agree, it's way too early for routine.
Have you tried swaddling? My daughter was great in a swaddle up until about 4 months when she started rolling and had to change everything. I found a great swaddling technique on YouTube that was inescapable and she settled down real well with that (she was a bit of a Houdini even quite early).
He HATES a swaddle. Loves to throw his arms around in his sleep. Remove his ability to do so and he cracks it. But good tip.
Yeah that young I think you basically have to roll with it. Their bed times do eventually shift earlier! Basically you want to get on the other side of the 4 month regression then see what you’re dealing with.
thank god. Apparently he should be sleeping like 13-15 hours or something, I reckon we'd be lucky to get 8 or 9.
Mine had a phase of not going to sleep until 1am for a while then randomly just switched to 9-10pm. Then gradually kept moving back and now he goes to bed at 7.30!
The sleep hour numbers can drive you crazy. Like a few months ago we were told he wasn’t getting enough day sleep so I worked super hard to increase it. Now he sleeps too much 🙃
Good luck.
It wasn’t until I had kids that I understood just how effective sleep deprivation is as a method of torture.
I hope you have a support network you can rely on to help.
"By joining our client's team, you will enjoy the following benefits:
Monday to Friday job: Embrace a consistent schedule that allows you to enjoy your weekends free of work commitments."
really scraping the bottom of the barrel here peeps. ps: this is item 2 of a 2 item list.
Hey guess what you also get actual money for this which you can exchange for goods and services
Finally cleaned my dusty desk
Counsellor was sick so had to reschedule
EOFY is upon us! Happy tax returns
Happy EOFY!
I was a bit excited for the new financial year, as I have been working hard to get all my finances sorted out. I have my budget working well (with a pretty colourful spreadsheet, including lots of automatic calculations), have no more debts to pay off, future spending goals (including getting another dog or two and further study) are fully costed and achievable.
This financial year change is pretty much ruling off the past messes I have had to clean up, and marks the turning point into a much healthier financial future. A very happy EOFY!🎉
For those who remember the saga from last week, the Flybuys points were put on.
But as an attempt to lure me back to shopping at Coles, it's pretty much had the opposite effect.
I think if I don't feed the cat now she is going to eat me. Or at least annoy me to death.
Quick stroll around the block to get some sunshine and holy hell did that feel good. Even managed to dodge the annoying neighbour, was fully prepared to fake a phone call upon approach, but she had someone else snagged. She's a lonely woman with good intentions, but she drives me nuts.
Good news for those who aren't using Reddit anymore: this DT has almost twice as many comments as the one on Reddit. Thats good for us, since I and a few others were expecting a lot of people to zoom on back to Reddit the moment the sub reopened
One interesting thing I noted from a quick flick through, there seems to be a lot less replies to comments, but a similar amount or maybe even more upvotes than usual. Makes sense since the sub has about 600k members, and like 95% lurk (what's that effect called again? The 90-9-1 rule I think?)
It probably won't last though, I don't think we'll lose many people just put of losing interest at this point, but since Reddit is by far the larger platform and r/Melbourne the larger community, it's just kinda basic maths that eventually more people will go to the larger community on the larger platform and start engaging there. But at least we have cemented ourselves as a solid alternative Melbourne community off Reddit!
Much weirdness in the way Lemmy displays posts. I have just worked out that I am seeing deleted comments, and there is just a tiny little symbol at the end of the post to show me it has been deleted (I am guessing it is a mod thing). So apologies to anyone if I have extra-deleted or replied to anything that you have actually removed!
I’ve missed the DT for a few days.
Been trying to deal with this ear infection (ongoing since Thursday). GP is switching me to anti-fungal treatment (gross to think about). I’m so frustrated over the ongoing pain, lack of sleep & blocked hearing.
This was also meant to be my first week off work in 8 months (and I’d planned to be job searching to escape my toxic workplace). Thinking of returning to work likely still dealing with this ear BS makes me cry.
That's so awful and I am so sorry. Ear infections are the worst - I hope it clears up soon. I know it sucks going back to a job you hate, and it feels endless, but you will find something else. Sending you good vibes <3
Thank you. 🖤
I’ve just managed to book an ear clean for tomorrow. I’m hoping that will relieve pressure and pain at least.
I sometimes feel when we’re about to get some time off or you’re about to go on leave that your body lets you down and you end up sick.
Hope you’ll get better soon!
it's the stress response. Basically: Your body knows it has breathing space and stops pretending it's ok
Not your imagination! https://yourwellspace.com/why-do-i-always-get-sick-when-im-off-work/
Absolutely believe this was the case. As did my manager who laughed about me likely being sick for my whole time off. 😒
hugs
Get a doctor's note. If you're sick on your leave you can have it switched to sick leave as opposed to annual and get those days back in your bank.
I tried. The GP I saw (my regular one being away) was not sympathetic to my leave issue. Bah-humbug.
I woke up about 445am. Cats somehow know as soon as I wake up and I have to get up because they fuss about, start playing and the little kitten gets up in my face and sits on the laptop i have next to the bed I play youtubes on to lull me back to sleep. Little angels. Going to take my anti-anxiety/sleeping meds early tonight so I can get my circadian rhythm in line with their 5am wake time and not have to try and live everyday on 5 hours sleep.
I start every day now with an AA meeting. I found an amazing 24/7 online group and a wonderful sponsor from the US outta there. I thought I'd have trouble with the higher power stuff but I was obviously ready to begin a spiritual path to become a better person in the world and more helpful.
More volunteer work for trans people today. I'm embroiled in it again this week as a couple of people couldn't work. Have tomorrow off, but back into it on Thursday. I'm on my way to a b cup now!!! Omg they feel so special and sacred. I'm in tears and euphoric. The extra oestrogen I'm taking now has also brought a bit of libido on but of course female desire is so much different to male testosterone arousal. I'm a fuckin girl for real!! Woohoo
Thanks for reading everyone!
Finding spirituality was so helpful to me. Sometimes it’s just nice to feel like I can surrender, I don’t have to control everything or have all the answers… I just have to have intention and faith and move forward with honesty.
Absolutely this. I need to stop thinking for myself and surrender. Seemed impossible to me a few weeks ago, but I've just allowed it to wash over me and check the results which have been pretty much instantaneous. Its pretty wild and I'm loving this freedom.
I love hearing about your journey! Sounds like today was really special, and I love that for you!
It weirds me out every time I go get a haircut and try to explain what I want. I sound so…vague and painterly. I need a language scalpel or a sniper bullet chambered in the correct dialect.
Guess I’ll just keep using that photo from 10 years ago…
The trick is to write down what you say when it works and recite that back the next time you go.
That is unless you have been saying the same thing and they don’t understand.
Then as you say the photo is the next best thing!
Maybe get your hair person to explain what they did, so you can use those terms the next time?