[Question] How did you get into bdsm?
As the title suggests, how did you get into it? What would you call the "it"? Scene? Lifestyle? Kink? Practice?
As the title suggests, how did you get into it? What would you call the "it"? Scene? Lifestyle? Kink? Practice?
I started to answer this question, and then I realized I don't really know what you're asking. You ask what I, as a potential answerer, define as "it" (i.e. bdsm), but I'm not sure that leads to a very meaningful answer. What do YOU define as "it"? Are you looking for people who ARE in a scene/lifestyle to share their stories of how they made that happen? Or are you interested in how someone may have introduced one or more BDSM-related practices into a relationship? Are you interested in how someone developed a kink, regardless of how or even if they practice it? That last may be an impossible question to answer.
For myself, I'll just say that I'm a cis-het man who's been submissive as long as I can recall - certainly as long as I've been sexually aware. Literally I remember being 10 years old and lying in bed masturbating to thoughts of a girl in my class holding me down, sitting on my face, and squeezing my balls. HOW did I get into those kinks? I have NO IDEA. They were just always there. Since then I've gotten into several more BDSM-themed kinks, mainly just by seeing them depicted in porn or reading about them in erotic stories. But my wife and I practice very few of them, and I can hardly say I'm in any sort of scene or lifestyle. Still, I would say I'm "into bdsm", but couldn't really tell you how I got there. I'm not sure if this really answers your question.