Opinion | On Dates, I Now Look for Climate Compatibility

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/09/opinion/climate-change-dating-okcupid.html?unlocked_article_code=4bOHIudMbc9F4OKq29vj7N7ohmC2xRMMFHgf2OCJACLRVwHrRCzMANQcQC1JwWq-v3tn6eDPuTtWN_E-Rp6b1CL_tvtMtG6KNXlc97rMRO4fx1b568ShnYxjao8AVF0b6VFVtGymY1GVp9Rp5AqG0i0trkExQDA4LA0Dov3hJlXJwSPJeQGA86-SIndjQ1ym0FFxpYi20wbZJEATLFUIHKjl0aY08VYlDplUXnJCAWWpl0rnbGgDg_gIPwq3BrkoCElQTgx10V0p4VAJvkIKbUWdhSpBDUp7r1HheEcnzNmrGak4rLwGziyUjaU1EhCvR-u70InVb54iho2p03wVVcbAV9UTMKc

If being alive right now sometimes feels like standing on a cliff, I want to be with someone who’s not afraid to peer at the frothing tides.

Opinion | On Dates, I Now Look for Climate Compatibility

6 comments

Mysteriarch

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Coincidentally, I had a conversation about dating and climate change with a friend today. We both agreed that people showing off their exotic travel destinations have become a turn-off. Especially when they use airplane emoji's in their bio. On the other side: it does feel like some sort 'race' to show off those fancy place to communicate how well off you are, and not having pics like that may make you less attractive (but then again, why would I want to attract those huge polluters?). Dating gets you in a weird headspace, fucking hell.

bouh

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I'm 36. People of my generation were thought that travelling was the best life goal you can get. If someone my age didn't travelled afar, it's because it was too poor to do it. You can't change your history and there's no picture of the future yet.

Weird headspace and fucking hell indeed.

normalbeet

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On Dates, I Now Look for Climate Compatibility

I wish people didn’t have to read these articles to gain the confidence to ostracize those who destroy a world and everyone on it. (See also: every pandemic story you've read about someone's completely garbage "friend".) But since they plainly do, I hope each such article makes a measureable difference.

BonesOfTheMoon

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Seems reasonable to me. Someone who doesn't share your values will never last in a relationship with you.

SterlingVapor

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I made a dating profile for the first time in a long while, and I lost interest after a couple days. I hate the normal "let's go out for a meal" first dates, and bars are definitely not my thing.

I used to like hiking or walks on the beach. It's a nice shared activity in a place that naturally makes me feel at peace

But these days all I can see is how much less life there is than there was not too long ago. Especially at the beach - something about the smell isn't right. It just feels sad and wrong

silence7

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Yeah, there are some examples of pollution combining with warmer water to produce some nasty odors. If you're experiencing a changed odor, it might be something that's actually addressable, and doing this on a shared basis with somebody might be something that brings pleasure back.