I dont wear my playcollar in public, its leather with tiny spikes and would be too obvious for me.
But i do have a collection of collarlike necklaces, who go pretty with my day-to-day outfits and are way more subtle. I dont wear them all the time just when im in need of some extra support.
I would like to have an eternity collar or something like that with some sparkly shiny little stones.
I struggle to see how wearing a collar is any worse than vanilla folks wearing a wedding ring in public. And I say this as someone who’s pretty vanilla. It’s a symbol of a relationship, how is that hurting or even involving others?
Personally I draw the line at leashes. But it depends what public means. In more adult spaces, especially somewhere like a club or a dance I see no problem at all. Collars are just sort of like chokers. They just look kinkier.
To be clear I don't think people shouldn't be allowed to use leashes anywhere or whatever, that's just sort of where the personal line is for me. As in if someone asked me "Hey, should I leash up my sub while shopping" I'd say "probably not". It's not like I'd ask someone to please remove one if I saw them.
maybe you can elaborate. i too think wearing something like that is quite tame. and people who are not in to that kind of stuff, will not even notice. i certainly have not. people seem to be discreet.