OP's exploring unfamiliar territory and doesn't have clinical/conversational vocabulary for it yet, which isn't too surprising considering growing services like Lemmy are bound to attract all kinds of people eventually. We shouldn't gatekeep info because of crude language, and as a bi guy I don't think they said anything explicitly hateful here.
Themes are good because it lets people know that at least a little planning went into the party.
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