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@lemmy.worldI looked it up and technically millet is a cereal! I cook 2 parts millet with one part frozen spinach (2/3 of standard water) and when it’s nearly cooked, I take the lid off and add tomato sauce, then top with cheese before serving. I sometimes add chia seeds as well, if it needs a little thickening up.
I also love chopped green onions, tomatoes, olives, and smoked tofu in bulgur (bloomed in broth)
It’s okay, it would have taken me a lot longer to realize that :)
I’m sorry you’re in such an awful space, I don’t have any real advice for you, except that you should give yourself a little bit of a break, because you’re in a really stressful moment. I tend to treat myself too much, which is why I say only a little bit of a break, but try not to expect full productivity from yourself.
Is this someone who’s following you around? Because if your response is just to this comment, I think you’re reading something into it that’s not fair. That’s okay, literally everyone here gets over sensitive sometimes, but you should probably take a little break and see if you feel better after a shower or walk or something.
The majority of porn with trans women is aggressively fetishized and dog-whistley to blatantly transphobic. I’m honestly not surprised that someone who consumes it is a transphobe.
It’s generally legal in the US, with some exceptions (judges holding court, maybe ship captains?), and as an American, it’s a little hard to wrap my head around the laws in Germany. I live here, so I just don’t say rude things to strangers, but what is an insult?
Some people are ugly or fat or bald or stupid, all of which I would consider insults. Can the truth be an insult? What if I did fuck that dude’s mom last night, would it be an insult to tell him? I’ve seen dutzen (use of the informal “you”) be considered an insult, and I just don’t understand how. I understand how it can offend someone, but the word I use for the people I love best in the world is objectively not an insult.
If insulting is subjective, can lizzo (or an equally body positive person) get away with calling someone fat?
Above all, how is saying “it is my sincere opinion that” before the insult a real defense?
I think with a forced gender binary, any advantages are double sided: men are respected, but not allowed to show emotion; women are cared for, but infantilized; men earn more money, but can’t ask for help; women are trusted with children, but not computers; men get to go on adventures, but can’t back down from a fight.
Like, with other forms of bigotry, there’s a much clearer “winner,” but sexism fucks everyone. I don’t think it fucks everyone equally, but it does negatively impact everyone.
I’m an AFAB egg and I heavily relate to a lot of that. I come off some sort of way to people (I’m also 178 cm, but only 62kg, so I’m tall but not big, maybe that’s related), such that people don’t interrupt me, take credit for my ideas, mansplain to me… I actually experience very little in terms of individual (vs institutional) sexism, and I don’t know how to phrase that without it seeming like victim blaming. People don’t even catcall me anymore, but I may have just aged out of it