@Firefly7
@lemmy.blahaj.zoneI'm envisioning a hypothetical future where, alongside competing with platforms like Reddit/Twitter/Instagram/etc, federated platforms compete with retail or service-providing platforms like Amazon, Uber, Fiverr, Airbnb, etc, platforms that primarily just serve to connect users to other users and handle transactions between them. Is this future possible or desirable?
https://thewaroncars.org/2023/07/18/108-traffication-with-paul-donald/
I’m quite young, but personally—I spent most of my childhood thinking a crush was just “friendship I’m embarrassed to want to continue,” so I avoided befriending girls I had “crushes” on just because I thought me doing so would be creepy or clingy. Later on, in high school, I didn’t like that I hardly had friends who weren’t guys, so I was happy to befriend someone who wasn’t, who I’ll call Z, even though being around them made me generally anxious.
When I found out about myself being aro (and ace), it lead to me gaining a furthered interest in LGBTQ politics and being less ashamed in trying to advocate for myself in platonic relationships.
Z also figured out that they were aroace, and we quickly and mostly-accidentally entered an intimate platonic relationship. Which… was a big mistake! I was under the impression that our aroace compatibility made us immune to having a bad relationship, but I ended up really liking their touch and acceptance, and not really liking being around them otherwise. Z wasn’t a bad person, so I didn’t really have a reason to be anxious around them, so I thought it might just go away if I tried hard enough. It didn’t. Just a pretty big personality conflict. Cue several months of feeling bad whenever we did anything non-cuddling, and feeling guilty that I felt bad during those times—which ended up being a lot, because Z stopped enjoying cuddling. I’m grateful to them, though, for being willing to talk to me about it, even if it took us a while to figure out what was wrong.
Since then, I’ve found other cuddle buddies that I feel much more secure around. And it’s still weird and surreal to see people in my friend groups having romantic desires, and dating people. Every time it happens I want to quiz them and be like “are you sure you’re not secretly aromantic and you just haven’t realized??” :P
It’s also probably why I like Lemon Demon and Tally Hall and Will Wood instead of, like, normal music that normal people listen to.
https://harpers.org/archive/2021/06/tiktok-house-collab-house-the-anxiety-of-influencers/
Educating the TikTok generation
I’ve noticed that most people here are ex-redditors, migrating due to the API changes and u/spez’s problematic leadership. I’m wondering, though, how many people here use Lemmy despite never using Reddit?
Personally, I only ever interacted with r/place, and lurked a few times, but I kept up with the protests and I liked the idea of building up Lemmy as a Fediverse alternative for Redditors to migrate to. So I’m not sure if I count.
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/286631
Was wondering what urbanism-related books people might have read or heard about. I've personally read Walkable City by Jeff Speck, which I found enjoyable and informative. I've also heard of the books written by Charles Marohn (Confessions of a Recovering Engineer and Strong Towns). What others are notable?
You can read Walkable City for free here: http://www.petkovstudio.com/bg/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Walkable-City.pdf , though it's missing anniversary edition content. Don't be scared by the page count, it's only actually like 200.