@AdmiralDoohickey
@lemmygrad.mlI am sitting on a desk PC the whole day at work, which I believe has caused my ability to play games on my PC to diminish. I have found the following solutions, so I am asking to see if any of you has done something like that:
With solutions (2) and (3) converting the PC to a console so I can sit on the couch and relax.
Also, have you found your tastes change after starting work? I used to be into games with complex stories and/or challenging gameplay but now I feel to tired for that.
Thanks
She wanted me to make this post, because she is not sure if she is just "weird" or if she can get diagnosed with ADHD and/or autism and make her life a bit easier. The symptoms that bother her the most are the following:
Sometimes walks away from uninteresting conversations without realizing (with familiar people) with strangers, feels like being held hostage.
Intense focus to the point of forgetting to eat, drink water and neglecting to go to the toilet.
Periods of low mood and anhedonia vs periods of intense obsession(?) and excitement with some activity (specific game or game genre, desktop customization).
Diagnosed with dysthymia and BPD traits (due to self-harm).
Suicidal thoughts since 14 yo but never made an attempt.
Low self esteem.
Persistent interests for many years in which she has made great contributions.
Does not like to go out much and feels dirty after going out.
Very annoyed by insects, afraid of bees and wasps.
She is a perfectionist.
In kindergarten, she would not go out for recess if she was still in the middle of doing something (finishing a drawing).
When learning how to do something, she liked repeating the process e.g. making boxes out of paper, drawing the same image.
Always sits with her knees close to her chest.
Occasionally rocks back and forth or from side to side sometimes repeats certain sounds / jingles / song melodies.
She thinks in images instead of words, except when having depression-related thoughts (e.g. "I am useless"), or positive thoughts ("I can do this") or when daydreaming scenes with dialogue.
Because of this, speaking is hard for her as she has to translate the images to words.
Performs great at work but gets burned out quickly.
Is bad at socializing, and has cut contact with her old friends and does not want to go back to having friends
Zones out of conversations.
My gf has the correct political vibes so to speak, but no theoretical basis or knowledge of history. However, she is interested in watching documentaries on the subject, so which are the ones you found most valuable? Thanks in advance
I finally found a job so I am going to move out of my parents' house soon, in order to live in the large city where the job is located with my gf. I should be happy about finally becoming independent and being able to see her every day, however I only feel dread about the transition, the lack of free time for my interests (probably intensified due to my shit executive functioning) and the fact that I will miss my family. How did you handle such a transition?
I am in the interview process for a job in a research group and it is going well so far. The only issue is that I was attracted to the person that interviewed me and I am going to be working with if I get hired.
My girlfriend is the most important person in the world for me so I don't want to risk catching feelings for someone else, but I also need to find a job if I am to rent a place to finally live with her.
What would you do in my case? Would you stop the interview process and try to find a job elsewhere or would you go for it and trust that you would do the right thing?
This question might sound deranged to you, but I have the full autism/ADHD/OCD combo so I am very out of touch with how the average person thinks.
For me it is Rabbit & Steel, bc I want to play bullet hell FFXIV with my gf: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2132850/Rabbit_and_Steel/
Other than that and Silksong (never ever) I don't have anything else on my radar for 2024 and beyond (it doesn't help that I am picky)
Or the people who say that are obsessed with subtlety and want everything to conform to the Western standards for art due to cultural hegemony brainworms? Sometimes I feel very guilty for engaging with this sort of media instead of something more "serious"
I was really let down by FFXIV: Endwalker, especially after Shadowbringers which had a really good story (with those juicy socialism / climate change themes).
It felt (to me) as if the game transformed into complete capeshit where half of it was unsatisfying resolution of loose ends and the other a hamfisted story about optimistic nihilism vs negutilitarianism (the previous expansion covered hope vs despair well enough so it was kind of redundant as well imo).
Why does every long-term JRPG project have to go to shit (similar to the Trails series after Sky the 3rd or Azure depending on who you are asking)? Why must capitalism make every piece of media shitty in one way or another?
Rant over, feel free to post your own
I thought EoD was pretty mid and SotO has less content than other expansions, but my girlfriend loves the game so I want to play it with her.
She is at the point where she has a work-related breakdown at least once per week, and wants to quit her job. If that's what it takes for her to get better I am completely fine with it, but I can't help but think that this would happen in any job, because:
She wants to work the exact hours listed in her contract, without counting breaks of any kind so she effectively works more than 8 hours per day. She doesn't want to cheat her employer, despite knowing about wage theft.
She doesn't want to inconvenience anyone, so she consents to doing things that are too much for her. The biggest offender here are the work trips, she is very introverted and socialization tires her out, especially considering that she fakes her facial expressions and the way she speaks in order to fit in, so having to do that for 4 consecutive days with her coworkers is really taxing for her. Despite that, she goes anyways, because she doesn't want to inconvenience her manager and coworkers and comes back in a worse state than before she left. This also applies to working on things she doesn't like, which might have been avoided if she tried speaking to her manager (who is a pretty decent person luckily).
I have also been burnt out during uni, and from experience know that if you don't stop on your terms, when your body and mind "tell" you you are at your limit, you are going to collapse in a much worse manner, so I want to prevent this somehow. But I feel like I can't do anything except observe her walk a dangerous path without robbing her of her agency and that's frustrating. Does anyone have some ideas for this?