Claiming that someone's homophobia is because they are secretly gay is ultimately blaming the gays for said homophobia.
It's also entirely possible that someone is just a hateful piece of shit.
Women can be sexist and nonwhite people can be racist: being a member of a marginalized group unfortunately doesn’t inherently keep someone from perpetuating the discrimination against said group. It’s absolutely true that a lot of, and definitely the majority, of homophobic people are straight, but a lot of the terror-based homophobia stems from projection.
Unfortunately, being gay isn't a panacea, and one can be both gay and a huge piece of shit.
I get what you're saying.
But usually it's really they are a hateful piece of shit because they are secretly gay. The loudest ones tend to be the most secretly what they are yelling about.
i just don’t believe that that’s actually true, though. most homophobes are just pieces of shit, not secretly gay
… i’m an asshole because i think that homophobes are mostly bad people, not self-hating gay people?
Honestly, I misread what you said and thought you were saying angry gay people were mostly bad people. Lol yikes, I apologize
That's embarrassing
no you're not an asshole. I agree with you that some people are just homophobic pos and not secretly gay. But for this one in particular, if true, it's screaming insecurity rather than homophobia.
Yeah, he may be just a POS, but he seems to think so hard in what looks gay or not... looks like he's hiding.
?? It's blaming a gay person for being homophobic, by what logic does it apply to all of them?
Um, I'd argue that it's blaming the people that drive others to subvert their own tendencies, e.g. the gay-is-icky crowd of which the Christian national movement is a subset.
If gay was truly okay, and we didn't have guys who felt pressured to be alpha masc, then no-one would blink twice when a toddler liked flowers and rainbows.
She provides baby food. Why wouldn’t the baby prefer her more. Heck I’ll hang out with someone more if they gave me food.
More importantly it sounds like she doesn't judge and criticize everything the son does, at one year old
The husbands of some of my acquaintances are exactly like this. While I'm generally repulsed by the term Low Value Male, these are the types of men that I think fit the bill. Manly homophobes crippled by their ingrained toxic masculinity
Reading the post like:
Even if this isn't real there 100% are loads of people who actually think like this
Kid put a banana in his mouth. Yeah kids put everything in their mouths! Be glad it's food and not random carpet lint.
This has to be fake, the part about the books just gives it away, with the kid being one year old.