@Tsun In the US there's little to gain really, being autistic is both for and against you and formal diagnosis applies to both ends equally.
It gets used in child custody hearings to take children away from parents, conservatorships to take away our rights, etc.
And for accommodations, depends on your state. Half the country has "at-will-employment" laws, which practically means you have zero protections, so a diagnosis doesn't offer much help there.
@cogitoprinciple Yeah, unfortunately it rules me out of having any information since I'm in the US
@r3df0x @SuddenDownpour That's not remotely what this is referring to and it makes me wonder if you read the article at all?
They were comparing public vs private actions of allistics vs autistics and basically determined that autistics are more likely to be charitable/kind without needing recognition or attention to it.
The real findings:
* We're less likely to differ our choices based on whether or not they're perceived
* We're more kind by default
What you're talking about is a separate, but also common thing, called fawning. A trauma response that many of us also have in which we do whatever we think a person wants to avoid perceived threats and harm, even if that action itself causes us further harm.
This test did not examine fawning and did not examine charity at great personal cost. It was just whether or not someone would act charitably at personal expense or uncharitably at personal gain... an allistics basically were only good when people were watching while autistics were consistent regardless.
@nichtsowichtig @teraflopsweat "Scripting" is a common tool for us, though in most cases it's just rehearsing lines and establishing conversation patterns and flows.
Groups like this are also great places to get together and workshop communication ideas, from figuring out something accessible to say to get your needs met to other forms of communication, or even just validation when there isn't a reasonable way forward.
@BilboBargains @MadgePickles ... I kinda want to steal that one because it's brutal and beautiful
@Caesium @MadgePickles Taking calls for my job I've developed "I'm doing alright, how can I help you?"... internally it's my own "fuck your formality, get to the point"
@apophis @Zeth0s @Worx but the fact that we even have to think that much to establish the patterns like that... oof
But also very similar to my answers as well
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