I still call anyone who is infatuated with a topic of interest a nerd, but usually tongue in cheek because the likelihood is I'm also interested
Of interest, in Canada's 2011 federal election the Conservative party with Stephen Harper won by painting Michael Ignatieff as a book nerd professor from Harvard University.
They ran ads with taglines such as "Just visiting," "Just in it for himself," and, most notoriously, "He Didn't Come Back For You." These all suggested he was an erudite professor from the USA who wanted to run Canada for his own self-aggrandizement and mocked his intelligence and academic bona fides.
it's just pathetic that in 2023 we still consider AC to be a luxury when heating is mandatory. All humans require climate control for both extreme heat and cold. AC isn't and shouldn't be a luxury.
I.e. you see your home as an investment from which you expect to see a positive return, but now you are afraid that it may lose some of that value.
No, I don't see it as an investment. The way the system works sees it as an investment. We've created a system whereby housing is overvalued because it's meant to have inflationary payoffs.
My parents didn't see our home as an investment. They just bought homes at random that were close to where they worked and seemed good for kids.
There's no option for me to buy a place that isn't an investment because that's the very nature of the market.
I never wanted my house to be a stock market investment. It's just that I want some consistency. Tell me what I'm getting into. Are we playing this game where we bid for overpriced housing as a supplemental retirement benefit? Or are we building a better future where the former doesn't matter? I just don't want to get fucked, that's all.
Sorry to hear that you went through that.
In a perfect world I could have had an amicable divorce from my ex and everybody could have stayed in touch and been happy.
Instead I had a "Michael Bay" divorce where everything went really explosive and badly. It's sad because I see a lot of example -- such as our own prime minister -- who have a great divorce where everybody is respectful and mature and life goes happily on.
I've tried to explain to my dad how screwed up it is that he maintains a relationship with my ex despite my zero contact with my kids but he doesn't care. Actually, he went to my exes wedding with her new husband last month, which involved him flying to my city. He didn't visit me, which is really the extra cherry on the shit sundae.
In "theory" or "legally" I have 50-50 custody. In practice, it's nearly impossible to enforce visitation with older children. My kids were 15 and 9 when we split. Immediately, the courts said enforcement on the 15-year-old was impossible. I spent a few years battling enforcement on the 9-year-old but she soon also became unenforceable. At a certain point you can't win if the kids also don't want to see you or make your visit a nightmare by passively resisting.
I was in the middle of one of these court battles when my daughter became anorexic and told the medical staff she didn't want me to visit her in hospital. She was about 13 and that was the last I saw her.
Legally, I am a 50-50 parent but in reality the only thing I'm entitled to do is pay their mother $1,000 a month.
Oh I'm fine with him seeing his grandkids but he has no empathy for my situation, considering it a dispute between myself and my ex. He even shares details from his trips to see them, as though that wouldn't hurt me to hear about it. His lack of empathy is the problem.
My mother, on the other hand, criticized my ex for the situation and was "cut off." So, despite the fact I'm sad that my mother can't see her grandkids because she, unlike my dad, did take sides, I feel like she had the empathy to stick up for her son and point out it the situation isn't right.
I will also mention my brother was "cut off" because of his close associations with me.
I feel this is highly inaccurate because it would imply these faults are on the slave and not on the system. It's not about the job, it's about the slavery itself.
I found through personal experience that the prestigiousness of the job is highly irrelevant; it's the working that sucks. It's the mandatory devotion to literally anything that sucks one's soul from one's body. And yes, that does become repetitive, and leads to some of the symptoms described above.
But much of the above list are based on factors that are forced upon all of us:
It's about the system, not the slaves.
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