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@lemmy.blahaj.zoneI wouldn't go that far. You don't have to inject testosterone to be a REAL™ man. But it is probably safe to assume a subset of REAL™ men do.
Numbers going up does feel nice and a post not gaining any traction can be disappointing.
Nice thing about Lemmy is it is so small that local and global new feeds are actually usable. Even new communities with no subscribers can get plenty of views from those alone.
I would be tempted to tell her my adverb is fabulously.
"I fabulously eat. I fabulously think. And I'm going to fabulously walk away from this conversation now."
That's exactly why it needs to be something you are willing to explain. It makes their stories better.
It's very much not okay. In general, imposing labels on people is a bad thing. Doesn't matter how much better someone thinks they know, people get to explore their identities in their own way and at their own pace.
When I see someone imposing the egg or trans label I generally point them to the egg prime directive here.
When someone is just told they are trans, that opens ground for denial; it activates defense mechanisms built by internalized transphobia, and it has a high probability of pushing them further into the closet, if not making them outright transphobic. Even when it doesn’t, it leaves ground for their own subconscious to reject their dysphoria, claiming that they were just manipulated or deceived. The much more effective strategy is to talk about your own experiences with dysphoria so that they see the common grounds and come to their own conclusion about their gender. The code doesn’t forbid helping them to explore their gender; it forbids assigning a gender to them. Or, to put it more succinctly, you cannot be told what the Matrix is; you can only be shown.
As to why some people don't follow that. Either they don't know better, in which case educating them should fix it, or they are simply [epithet of your choice here]. Any community of sufficient size will have bad actors in it.
Skirts can be hard at times. They come in all kind of lengths. The major ones are mini, above knee; midi, below knee; and maxi, ankle length. And to make things harder, they aren't always consistent even within a brand. I don't know what skirts you've tried but I like the midi length the most.
I don't consider myself a femboy, trans-androgynous might be the best label at the moment, so I don't know how well my styles will overlap but here are some things.
I haven't done any super short shorts but I loved shorts like these over the summer.
V-neck shirts can be very flexible. They aren't strongly gendered on their own and can easily flex back and forth. I got this one recently.
I think the classic is skirt and crop top
Elbow length gloves
Oversized hoodies
Short shorts
Feminine/androgynous shoes and boots
I think it's going to particularly depend on what you want to do. A single cheap outfit? Then probably just a socks, skirt, and a top. Fill out a wardrobe? Head over to the women's section at a thrift store and grab some cute things.