HOW IS IT HURTFUL? If you can make believe you're a woman when you're not, you can make believe they are calling you mam instead of sir or removed.
You can disagree with the reason the minority group is feeling hurt, you can't proclaim that they aren't feeling hurt.
And with that being the situation you can only decide whether you have the empathy and belief in common humanity to do your small part in reducing the amount of hurt in the world. Or not.