That up there is porn and I'm not in it but if I was setting that up in real life with my current partner it would probably go something like this:
"Okay baby, damn you look sexy in that lipstick, I want you to sit down on the edge of the couch and put your hands on your thighs."
"Good, good, that's exactly what I wanted. I know you are going to enjoy this but I need you to keep your hands on your thighs and your head straight up while I put the first part of this on. Wow, the view from up here is fantastic! Why don't you arch your back just a bit and show off those Double D's while I do this?"
"Mmmm pretty lady, love those boobs! Raise your right hand and put it in this cuff right here, good good, now your left. Oh yeah, that position really shows it off!"
"Yeah I know the curtains are open, don't worry about it. Lean back and scoot your butt to the edge of the couch. Yeah, that's my girl. When you're ready spread your legs, here let me help you get one of them over the arm of the couch. Oh that's perfect! Keep them right there, don't move an inch!"
It's at this point the vibrator comes out and the teasing starts. After a while I'd add lube to the situation and over the course of a few minutes purposely over lube to the point where her butthole is greased up. Vibrator is working away and I'm using the other hand to play with her hair, nipples, touch her face, and working her G-Spot occasionally with a couple of fingers.
"No, I told you to keep your legs spread! I'll put this one back over the arm of the couch and you keep that other one right there where I told you too."
"Yeah, I know I'm naughty. I also know that you love being told what to do. Now you hold still or I'll tie you to the couch and leave you like this".
It's at this point I stop the vibrator and work a finger, then two in her ass. She'll usually get whiny about the vibrator going away so I'll say something like "I haven't forgotten about you. I'll bring that back in a minute but right now I'm doing this and I'm definitely enjoying the view!"
Once I've gotten the fingers in there I'll add the vibe back and then start moving the fingers. Do that for a few minutes with the vibe alternating between the clit and her pussy then remove the vibe and fingers.
"Ah this is too hot, I've got to get inside you!"
Put the vibrator back on, put my dick inside her pussy for a few strokes then pull out and remove vibe. She will definitely squirm around at the pull out.
"$Name, feels great being inside you but I've decided that I want the other hole."
"No, keep your head up."
Return of vibrator, line up with her backdoor and apply pressure. She'll start hip rocking while she rides the vibe and that will work my cock up inside her.
"Fuck yeah baby, your ass feels great! I knew you could do this and I knew you'd enjoy it! I love the way your boobs bounce around when you move! Ride it! Ride it!"
Presto, one super heated partner who will ride herself to orgasm with an empty pussy and a dick up her ass. Once you are up in there you can mix it up too.
Turn off the vibrator "C'mon baby, I know you can orgasm with just this! Ride it!" and then see what happens. Current partner surprised me to no end the first time I did this because she actually did ride it to orgasm.
Or "If you don't starting getting louder I'm going to turn this vibrator off!" Then take it away for a minute or so no matter what. When you bring it back "I didn't forget about you, here let me help."
My current partner likes to be commanded but she usually needs the commanding and the sex to be softer and more encouraging. I've had other partners that needed me to be more direct / commanding (Get on that couch and put that collar on your neck right now! After I put your hands in I'm going to fuck that ass raw."), others that just wanted me to physically move them around and do what I wanted, and still others that wanted the humiliation aspect ("Listen slut, I left those curtains open so the neighbors could watch me pound your ass while you got worked with a vibrator! If you don't behave I'll make you stand out in the backyard naked while I whip your ass!" )
It's all fun but if want to do it more than once with the same woman then you need to make sure that what you are doing is in-line with what your partner wants, not just what you want.