My previous partner didn't spank, except during play. But if I did something wrong she made sure I knew. She would have me kneel and pleasure her as she scolded me. I could say nothing but get out a, Yes, Mistress here and there as I performed my duty. Then, when she was done, and after I agreed to improve, she would have me pleasure myself as she watched. I was not permitted to stop until cumming.
This was most certainly humiliating, and I still get aroused thinking about it.
Ooooooooo.
Mine put me under strict orgasm control. If I so much as touched myself for pleasure without her permission, I'd find myself bent over the couch arm rest for a punishment. We lived together so she knew. My arse took quite a beating at times. 😆
The same on the orgasm control. My partner had her own methods of torment. But she chose the time and circumstance of any stimulation or orgasm I was to receive.