I wanted to let you know that your story resonated deeply with me. We had a similar family dynamic in parts (esp. the teaming up by apparent neurotypes), only nobody is officially diagnosed (I'm still waiting for results), which made it even harder to make sense of for a long time. So I feel for you!
During my university years especially, I also struggled heavily with keeping up with household stuff, which made me quite the unpopular flat mate... it's a huge source of shame for me, and still affects me to this day (though I'd like to believe I've gotten better).
Thank you for sharing, even if it is uncomfortable, it made me feel less alone with these experiences - so please don't feel like you have to apologize :)
