I partially addressed this in another comment. A lot of the problem I think is that I don't know how to talk to women beyond just friendly conversation, and I think it may be trauma from past bullying.
Maybe I do want more, and maybe I've given up on trying to find love because I'm just weary of it.
Fully agree that I should speak to a professional, I am part of my workplace's private medical insurance scheme so I could see what they can offer, since getting any help from the NHS is a no-go unless you're at immediate risk of serious harm/death. (Thankfully I am not at that point.)
Honestly, my suggestion is to go out to places that have events, like trivia or other games, whatever, with the explicit understanding you will not be flirting, asking anyone on a date, or trying to have sex.
Be friendly. Practice communication. Avoid drinking (especially to excess), don't change your mind when you think there is a chance, etc.
Just be a person doing something for fun.
You're creating, IMHO, a manufactured need to not-be-virgin, which can seriously make you come across as overeager or even not interested in someone as a person. Not saying this is what's happening with you specifically, just things that I've seen.
Others have it right about working on yourself, this is just one way to go about it. Best of luck!