I think you should cut your losses and move on personally. I have a parlor near me that is therapeutic only. I tried out a few of the gals, one of them did an absolutely erotic massage, she got as close as humanly possible to my balls without actually touching them, massaging all around them and all around my inner thighs. I was about as hard as one can get and exposed, I assumed it was a DIY situation, but the minute I started to touch myself she backed up and shook her head No.
I went back a 2nd time thinking maybe I wasn't following along correctly, but it was the same deal. I tipped her modestly. I would have tipped more if I had got myself off or of course if she had got me off. Regardless, she seemed totally fine with the tip amount. But I will not be returning. It's odd, it almost like she was seeing if she could make me cum just from touch without touching my cock or balls if that makes sense. I'm really not sure what her thinking is.
She'd be great for a warm up to a 2nd actual erotic release massage! But I moved on from her. Sounds like your situation may be similar.