@shandrakor
@lemmy.worldApparently you need to wear safety glasses to cut it because the maggots leap at you, while the cheese weeps salty tears.
It was, but I am actually doing really well now, generally. Stable and supportive partner. Love and joy on the daily!
Have some health issues but I feel like who doesn't these days? It does make having friends a struggle but I have a lot of.. acquaintances and small relationships can be fulfilling, in their own way.
Generally great relationships with my family, minus several humans who have been downgraded to biological associates.
On the whole pretty excellent and like to think I'm doing as well for those around me as I can despite my limitations.
Sorry, unsuspecting victims, for the wall of text, the word vomit needed out, I suppose.
One specific family member, hope that's okay. But I could never tell my mom about when I was molested on a work trip with her ex-partners company. One of the families took in troubled boys and I woke up in the cabin with him in my bed. Hands in my clothes and drunk as hell. I beat him so bad. One of the other actual children of employees woke up and helped pull me off him and got him out of there. We never talked about it. I don't know what he(the helper) knew at the time. What I do know is if I ever tell my mother this she will drive and she will one hundred percent kill the people who brought that monster into my life. And I love her too much to put her through that (both having to hear it, and the murder, and the subsequent jail time).
Okay, so my partner is just recently divorced from his years-estranged wife. He does not know if he wants to get married again, but I do. In loving him and being loved by him I found the reason people would want to tie their lives so fully with another's. You are theirs and they are yours.
This bothered me for a long time, and I promise I'm coming to something (that I think might be) relevant to your situation.
I read a book.. where the crawdads sing? I'm pretty sure. Anyhow a line in the book rang true with me, "we are married like wolves and geese are married" and I love that so much.
So, while you cannot marry her in a legal sense, you can be romantic as fuck.
Also! Just thought of this while typing. Do a commitment ceremony, nothing legal obviously but maybe do a cool cultural marriage ceremony like jumping over a broom around a fire or any of the myriad other marriage ceremonies other cultures use.
Anyhow I'm sorry she's having a hard time and I wish you and yours (and theirs (= ) all the very best. I can imagine a poly relationship could be difficult at times but it sounds like you're doing all the right things.
Stay awesome!
I was lucky enough to already be seeing a psychiatrist, and during one appointment I mentioned I was feeling attacked by memes that a friend had been sharing, specifically the ADHD ones. He asked me to show them to him and after three he handed me paperwork to fill out, a questionnaire for my mom and one for me, and then the next appointment he looked at the paperwork for about three minutes and asked if I had any issues with trying a new medication. That was June, and other than my other health issues, life is so much different than I ever thought it could be.