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@feddit.detrying to stop being so thin skinned:
I had an online discussion with a random, we had a short but intense exchange until he replied and then blocked me, robbing me of a chance to reply.
I feel hurt because I couldn't reply. To me that means he won. I feel insulted and angry.
Yes, this is something I should talk to about with a shrink, but the therapist I contacted hasn't replied yet, so I might have to start looking for a new one if this one ain't reliable.
In the meantime I turn to the second best thing I can think of: this channel.
I can try to rationalize it: I cannot change it, I'm letting that guy live free in my mind, letting it go is the rational thing to do.
Except that here I'm not being rational, but emotional and I don't know why this triggers me so much.
Not having the last word triggers me. How would you solve this?
trying to stop being so thin skinned:
I had an online discussion with a random, we had a short but intense exchange until he replied and then blocked me, robbing me of a chance to reply.
I feel hurt because I couldn't reply. To me that means he won. I feel insulted and angry.
Yes, this is something I should talk to about with a shrink, but the therapist I contacted hasn't replied yet, so I might have to start looking for a new one if this one ain't reliable.
In the meantime I turn to the second best thing I can think of: this channel.
I can try to rationalize it: I cannot change it, I'm letting that guy live free in my mind, letting it go is the rational thing to do.
Except that here I'm not being rational, but emotional and I don't know why this triggers me so much.
Not getting the last word triggers me. How would you solve this?
today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn't show up. I'm pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.
I've sent her a polite message, asking if she's sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won't treat me.
Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.
For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn't it bother you?
today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn't show up. I'm pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.
I've sent her a polite message, asking if she's sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won't treat me.
Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.
For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn't it bother you?
When I go to work I find it difficult to greet my coworkers when they're talking, and my coworkers talk a lot. I don't want to disturb them, so I don't say anything and let them speak. After that I don't find it necessary to greet them, because we've already seen each other. I don't do it to troll them or because I hate them and it baffles me that people can take that personally and feel attacked.
Another thing I don't understand is why people cannot simply work fast and then relax and talk. I do that and my pauses are longer. I don't understand why people prefer to work a bit and then gossip. I find that very tiring. I need structure.
Coworkers think I'm a loner, nothing wrong with that, I like being alone, but sometimes I wonder if I'm a bit autistic.
Leaving my current position is not feasible, it would mean taking a considerable pay cut.
I don't want to pretend something I'm not. I don't drink alcohol or coffee and don't smoke. I'm not gonna start doing that just to be a bit more popular.
When I go to work I find it difficult to greet my coworkers when they're talking, and my coworkers talk a lot. I don't want to disturb them, so I don't say anything and let them speak. After that I don't find it necessary to greet them, because we've already seen each other. I don't do it to troll them or because I hate them and it baffles me that people can take that personally and feel attacked.
Another thing I don't understand is why people cannot simply work fast and then relax and talk. I do that and my pauses are longer. I don't understand why people prefer to work a bit and then gossip. I find that very tiring. I need structure.
Coworkers think I'm a loner, nothing wrong with that, I like being alone, but sometimes I wonder if I'm a bit autistic.
Leaving my current position is not feasible, it would mean taking a considerable pay cut.
I don't want to pretend something I'm not. I don't drink alcohol or coffee and don't smoke. I'm not gonna start doing that just to be a bit more popular.