@anaisrim
@mastodon.socialI just hit reply. Didn't @ the user manually at all. But I'm coming from Mastodon and using the web interface. Seems like many are commenting from lemmynsfw? That should work. Maybe?
After reading Ada's post and comments there (not removed, many were), it's my opinion the admins there wanted to defederate lemmynsfw anyway and this was a convenient excuse.
Regardless, it's their server. Many users there support the decision. Their right, and if the userbase wants that they've chosen the right instance for them. Those who don't want that outcome will move.
After reading your post over at lemmynsfw, it's pretty clear they were looking for a rationale to defederate and would have done that no matter what you did to prevent it.
You made the right choice if with an unfortunate outcome.