I'm so sorry for your loss. I keep fish, especially Betta fish, and I reached a point where I realised I'd have to accept their short lives because they bring me such joy. So I'll just pass on what one of my friends often says: "May their memory always be for a blessing."
My own parents were of the "you're an adult, look after yourself" generation, and my parenting style was the opposite of what they did. My kids were told they'd always have a home with me, and I meant it. I didn't foresee that they'd still be at home at 28 and 21 years of age with no chance of them moving out anytime...well, it's starting to feel like they might be here for good. It feels like there can be no end to it, we live in a rural area and that means no jobs as well as no houses.
I won't lie, I was looking forward to my kids being grown and gone (with loads of visits of course). I'm struggling a lot lately. I never have any privacy in my own house, I'm having to lay down the law about things like voice chatting in the living room. My kids ought to have more privacy too, I sympathise with their side of it too. My 21 year old is in a bloody box room, god knows it's not easy for any of us.
I joined Beehaw because I was hoping for more of exactly what you posted here. Thank you. You're also a bright, shining light and I am grateful that you're here.
Not horrible, in general. The saga of the CPAP continues. Some nights I sleep well, some nights I don't. I suppose I'm sort of getting used to it? Last night was not good so that's colouring everything.
I saw a doctor who agreed to start me on post-menopausal HRT, as I have a family history of severe osteoporosis. I can think of about fifty other reasons I want to be on HRT, so I'm delighted.
My adult son and I made up from the huge fight we had last week, and I was able to come out of my room. The gist of the fight is that I need my adult kids to adult more than they do. I'm tired of managing the household. I know that in our location neither kid has the option of moving out (there's a severe housing crisis and even if you find a place, rents are crazy expensive). I can live with that, but I can't live with them doing nothing and leaving all the household chores to me like I'm the maid.
I'm really pleased to see people thinking about ableism and ableist language. It's so easy to just say what you've always said without thought and I appreciate anyone who stops to think about it.
"Duh" is the word I'm personally trying to remove from my vocabulary. As I have ADHD and am forever losing or misplacing things, it pops out of my mouth automatically far too often. I only began thinking about it recently, and as I have a couple of neurology-based disabilities it really is not ideal for me to say something that's insulting to people who are like me- by saying it, I'm putting myself down (internalised ableism) too!
"Lame" is tough because it replaces a whole lot of words. I do understand how difficult it is to replace it. I liked the suggestion of "bogus" (but didn't want to hijack that person's comment).
So someone stole some stolen items.
Don't get me wrong, of course it's important that items are kept safely and nobody gets to walk off with shiny things. But it's a bit hypocritical, because the British Museum is full of things stolen from all over the world, they even have a page about it.
Yeah, that would be part 2. Part one is not generally played on radio- they would have had to start out with fans of the band or at least fans of that album, which is why I wonder "why that song?"
Of all the Pink Floyd songs they could have chosen, why on earth "Another Brick in the Wall Pt. 1"? Still, this is awesome.
Still trying to come to terms with my new CPAP. I worked out a few bugs only to develop new ones. According to my smartwatch I'm still not staying in deep sleep for more than a minute or two at a time, and I'm absolutely exhausted. I'm hoping that it's just that the CPAP works as intended but I'm not used to it yet, because I'm not going to get any help from the ResMed drone who gave it to me. I'm relying on YouTube for advice, which has been both helpful and worrying- my device is apparently an APAP and many of the YouTube experts hate them and even call them dangerous.
I also got a stomach virus late last week, which I'm still getting over, which isn't conducive to good sleep. I had a massive fight with my adult son the day before I got sick, and then spent the weekend melting down from the sheer overwhelm of the exhaustion, illness, and emotional crap. I've been locked in my room since last Thursday and I'm not sure when it'll be safe to emerge.
Thanks for that. Sadly, I'm far more likely to get useful information from the Internet than I am from my medical team. I actually turned to YouTube to "fill in" details the technician didn't bother to tell me- namely that "mask leak" with a nasal pillow can be caused by opening your mouth. I also was able to work out, thanks to videos, that the nasal pillow I was told to use was a terrible fit for me, which is why I felt like I was suffocating and unable to breathe the first night, but the correct size was thankfully in the box. It's been much smoother sailing since I swapped to the correct size pillow.
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