Pain science is real weird.
This is a bit reductive, but one of the theories of pain is that it's entirely neurological, essentially meaning that pain doesn't actually correlate to physical harm to the body meaningfully. The other thing this means is that we tend to build these neural pathways the more we pay attention and hyper focus on any given body part. Compounding on this: the less outside stimulus, the more likely it is that we will have the ability to focus on the minutia of our internal processes in the first place.
Again, this is somewhat reductive as a measure of explaining pain, but it is probably partially correct.
I don't disagree with any of the content of what you said, but I've never met a trans person who defaulted to nondisclosure. And doing that is a very unsafe move for any trans person.
There is the typical "I'm gonna at least see if there's some genuine interest here before I decide if it's worth it to have this conversation," but I've never met anyone who would forgo that up to and after sex. I don't think this is common at all.
So I appreciate you approaching the topic with some care here.
I think with this topic people can be fairly reactive on both sides. This to say: There's a genuine desire of far-right actual transphobes to exterminate trans people. And from there, trans people tend to get convinced that transphobes are everywhere and transphobia is in everything. People who are systematically victimized have a tendency to argue with moderates because there's a compulsion to pick the smaller and seemingly more winnable fight... but it tends to have the opposite from the intended reaction. I don't think this speaks to any bigger truth however.
With that said: No, it's not transphobic to want to date cis people. I know plenty of trans people who specifically won't date cis people, so it goes both ways. Curiously, I also know some cis people who only date trans people, and some trans people who only date cis people.
Can I ask why?
LineageOS supports a custom avb (android verified boot) key and a locked boot loader on a very limited number of devices, and surely not a galaxy s4. Which is to say if malware was installed on your device it could be persistent through boot/reboot cycles. There will be no verifying OS integrity. Also on a device that's been unsupported for that many years, the firmware and software that you'll have access to is dramatically less secure. And this just can't improved by also not having a locked bootloader.
Lineage can only do so much to support devices after they've reached EOL, which while I agree sucks, it's a problem that's at the hardware level (Qualcomm and Samsung make it impossible to continue meaningful support).
I understand if you're trying to keep a device alive that you already have, but buying a phone for this purpose is probably not a good call. Or do you live in an area with limited access to newer tech?
If you can at all, the cheapest and best move would be to buy something like a Pixel 6a or 7a (or even a 5a) and run GrapheneOS.
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