Do you condemn american natives who attacked settlers ? There are no innocents in a settler colonial project, that's like calling a card-carrying member of the Nazi party an innocent.
The native jews are a very small minority. Most of those "innocent" chose to be there and partake in this genocidal apartheid state.
Israel has no right to self defence, because it has no right to exist. If the Jews have to have a state (which isn't necessarily a good thing as it gave European countries an excuse to not tolerate them as they could always "go back home"), why not put that state in Germany ? You know, a country that actually did something to them.
On the other hand, the UN recognized the right of the Palestian people to fight against the Israeli occupation, which was explicitly described as an apartheid state on the same level as South Africa at the time.
You have no idea how history work. How do you think anti-colonial partisans all around the world were treated by the occupying press ? It's never "people legitimately fighting for their country", always "unjustified targeting of 'civilians' and 'state officials'".
Israel isn't there to protect Jews or any such fantasies. Jews lived in Palestine before the colonial project, and they will continue to live there after it.
